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“A Room Of Her Own:” Or How To Try To Create That Impression in the Blended Family, Part II

October 14, 2014 by


Not being an interior designer, nor in possession of the perfect algorithm for creating peace in public spaces among warring step-sibs, I can just suggest a few ideas as you work together to share space among your newly-created family. But I do know that everyone needs their space. I’m reminded of the story of Ronda* […]

“He’s MY Daddy:” Campaigning For Attention in the Blended Family: New Spouse vs. Children

October 12, 2014 by


To finish off this series on the blended family, let’s address what happens when the ones campaigning for attention of a certain parent are a child–and the new spouse. Look, let’s face it. Your child has very little cause to be invested in your new marriage. Either he’d like things to go back the way […]

“Not Necessarily Sacred”: Making Rules For the Blended Family

October 8, 2014 by


Franklin D. Roosevelt said, in that wonderful bass voice of his: “Rules are not necessarily sacred, principles are.” Let’s see where that takes us. In my post “‘A Room Of Her Own:’ The Saga of the Blended Family Continues,” I suggested that another major topic, after space, that needs addressing when households combine is how […]

“A Room Of Her Own:” The Saga of the Blended Family Continues

August 31, 2014 by


According to Virginia Woolf, for a woman to succeed in her ambition to write fiction, she “must have money and a room of her own.” Granted your little one may not be attempting to compose the Great American [or in this case, I suppose, British] novel, and her allowance may suffice for now–but if you […]

Blended Families–Part I: The “L” Family

December 2, 2011 by


The following stories blend the challenges of step-families into narrative-based lessons. I begin with the story from one pair’s meeting, to a moment of a radical change in their lives. Lucille,* a nurse, and Larry* an accountant, came to marriage in their early 30s.  Both had been married before, but only Larry had a child,  a […]