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Adult Children Moving Back Home: Too Much of a Good Deal

October 16, 2014 by


13. It always gets that bad ‘unlucky’ rap, even in these progressive days and times. There’s just no escaping it. So it will be no surprise to parents, who thought they saw the backsides of their children when they sent them off a full-paid college experience, that 13% of parents with grown children now claim […]

“We’ll Just Fix It For You”: Letting Your Children Be Adults: Walking the Walk

October 13, 2014 by


High achievement always takes place in the framework of high expectation. ~Jack Kinder So you’re ready to set boundaries with and just say no to your over-indulged adult child–and you haven’t the faintest idea where to begin. Well, you’ve come to the right place. It’s time to teach your child financial responsibility–a bit late, it’s […]

Adult Children With Extenuating Circumstances: Some Plan B’s

September 25, 2014 by


Sometimes all the setting of boundaries, the just-say-no-ing, and the financial tough love can’t keep your adult children afloat in the outside world, and it’s time to let them come and rest their battered and weary heads in your home, under your protection, until they have the strength and wherewithal to head out again. If your child […]

“Stupid Young-Adult Children Tricks”–Never Again!

September 18, 2014 by


So I hear congratulations are in order. Your young-adult child has managed to pull a maneuver at once so suave, so foolhardy, so dangerous, so. . . .stupid, that he is in the running for winning our Stupid Young-Adult Child Tricks Contest.  The question is, now that your kids have yanked your chain, made a […]

Stupid Young-Adult Children Tricks

September 17, 2014 by


“Did you ever get the feeling there’s a wocket in your pocket?” Thus begins my youngest granddaughter’s favorite classic, named, appropriately, Wocket in My Pocket, by Dr. Seuss. You might think it’s just a silly book with goofy rhyming words that engages children so young they don’t understand a plot. You know, just know, something’s […]

But What If?: Adult Children With Extenuating Circumstances

September 14, 2014 by


Brian* always seemed a few steps behind everyone else socially, unsure when to laugh, when to put himself forward, when to retreat. His stutter contributed to his painful shyness. And from the get-go he had never managed to get his school work done. Not from the time he was in first grade and was expected […]

Continued Financial Support of Adult Children: A Way For You Both To Lose

September 9, 2014 by


I won’t grow up/I don’t want to wear a tie/And a serious expression/In the middle of July./And if it means I must prepare/To shoulder burdens with a worried air,/I’ll never grow up/never grow up, never grow up/Not me/Not I/Not me!/So there! ~ Peter Pan If you’re as ancient as I am, you’ll probably remember this: […]

Raising Nice Adults: Overfunctioning for Your Already Launched Adult Children

October 28, 2013 by


Over a year ago I posted several blogs on helping to launch your young adults who haven’t yet found work, job, insurance, or significant other.  See “Fixing We’ll Just Fix It For You: Letting Your Children be Adults: the Two Principles,” and“But What If? Adult Children with Extenuating Circumstances.”  Recently, an extended version of that […]