Browsing All posts tagged under »Marriage«

How In the WORLD Could This Work?: The Possibilities of Mediation

February 17, 2012 by


Julie came from a wealthy family–grew up with that proverbial silver spoon practically shoved down her throat. Were her parents thrilled when she met Jim, whose highest vocational training had occurred at McDonald’s and who had never owned or rented his own apartment–and then shared the news that the two would be married within a […]

“He’s MY Daddy:” Campaigning For Attention in the Blended Family: New Spouse vs. Children

February 12, 2012 by


To finish off this series on the blended family, let’s address what happens when the ones campaigning for attention of a certain parent are a child–and the new spouse. Look, let’s face it. Your child has very little cause to be invested in your new marriage. Either he’d like things to go back the way […]

The Triangle–What It Looks Like In Family Life

January 16, 2012 by


Molly* is a difficult [in my more honest moments I think of her as nearly tyrannical] early adolescent, who makes her mother’s life a horror. She picks on Mom’s clothes, her hairstyle–the way she chews her toast in the morning. It seems little escapes Molly’s critical eye, despite the fact that her mother Marge* has […]

Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Changing the Ground Rules #1: Losing a Career

January 10, 2012 by


Before I leave the topic of issues to consider when you’re thinking of leaving your marriage, I wanted to bring up a few situations that make the decision to stay or go vastly more complicated. What happens in a marriage, and are you obligated to stay, when the very ground rules of that marriage have been […]

Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Changing the Ground Rules: Some Suggestions

January 9, 2012 by


What do you do when faced with a situation like Trish’s, where your partner loses a career and becomes a mere shadow of him or herself? Or one like Timothy’s, where your life’s mate morphs into someone you don’t know at all? Or one where you’ve become more a nurse-maid than a spouse? Of primary […]

Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Changing the Ground Rules #3: “I Changed My Mind,” ct’d

January 9, 2012 by


Well, your spouse pulled that old Mitt Romney, “I changed my mind” on you, and now you don’t even recognize your own marital territory. It’s hard–and my heart goes out to you. But before you make any decisions, I think you need to get over your righteous indignation. Yes, you’re right that it’s unfair–it really […]

Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Changing the Ground Rules #3: “I Changed My Mind”

January 9, 2012 by


Betty and Brian* were devout atheists, and had been since they were teenagers. So when her Catholic family and his Jewish family protested about their marriage, they laughed at the small-mindedness of their parents and threw themselves a huge wedding bash. Lisa and Leon* knew one thing for certain–they didn’t want children. It was nice […]


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