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Money Matters in Couple Relationships: Avoid Financial Betrayal: Be Your Own Detective, REPRISE

September 2, 2014 by

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In my series of posts on Money Matters in Couple Relationships, I wrote several entries regarding how to avoid financial betrayal, and gave some general pieces of advice, as you can see there. I warned in those posts against ignorance of financial matters in a relationship, much as a person might like to abdicate financial responsibility. […]

Money Matters in Couple Relationships–Part VII–Avoid Financial Betrayal: Getting Taken to the Cleaners, the Poorhouse, or Worse–to Jail

August 30, 2014 by

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I’d like to return for a bit to the topic of financial issues in couple relationships–see entries below for the beginning of this ‘bloggersation.’ A beautiful woman with a twice-mortgaged house in an expensive suburb finds her husband somewhat less than enamored with her chronic spending. Fights ensue after each purchase that she finds reasonable–a […]

Money Matters in Couple Relationships–Part II

August 30, 2014 by

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So, let’s assume, for the moment, that I’m that marriage counselor competent in financial matters mentioned in my last entry, and a couple with an unequal money-power ratio has come to me. Let’s assume you, the reader, are part of that dyad. So, if you’re the controlling spouse, you’re not likely to care what I […]

Money Matters in Couple Relationships–Part IX–Avoid Financial Betrayal: Getting Taken to the Cleaners, the Poorhouse, or Worse–to Jail, ct’d

August 19, 2014 by

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The stories continue: Once a month at bill-paying time Janice* finds her usually fairly easy-going husband belligerent and impossible to talk to. Worse, he is sharply critical of her expenditures–and of her. The lifestyle the couple lives fails to match the income that either or both spouses used to have or pretend to have, but Janice remains […]

Money Matters in Couple Relationships–Part IV–How to Communicate About Money: The Checkbook

August 19, 2014 by

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Ok, so you’re working together to create a financial plan acceptable to both of you.  Why not begin with the checkbook? Ask yourselves this question about how to handle the checkbook–do you want one checkbook–or three? Let’s say you like the first option, of having just one checkbook. So you’ve got a joint account. The […]

Money Matters in Couple Relationships–Part V–Laws for Checking Accounts

August 18, 2014 by

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No matter which way you decide to divide the checkbook, there should be three laws for checking accounts in a good marriage, according to Opdyke. 1. The Law of Autonomy: In this case, each spouse is allowed to use a certain amount of money each month however s/he desires, no questions asked. Save it, spend […]

Money Matters in Couple Relationships–Part VI–Dividing Financial Responsibilities

August 14, 2014 by

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So if you’ve spent some time thinking about it, in an organized fashion, you’ll probably realize that there are fundamentally only four different permutations of ways to divide financial responsibilities. You’ll also probably be intimately familiar with one of them. One option: One partner takes control of the family’s finances, and the other partner is […]

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