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No More Monkeys Jumping On This Bed: Few Psych Meds Coming Our Way

June 16, 2013 by

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There’s nothing wrong with the size of the field. The National Institute of Mental Health estimates that nearly one in four adults in America suffers from a diagnosable mental order in any given year. And there’s not been much to complain about the profitability of the field in past years either. Take 2009: Next Generation […]

“I Should’ve Known!”: Warning Signs That Your Partner Is Ungiving, Difficult, or Just Plain Awful

March 30, 2012 by

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Do you remember that commercial where the man is drinking a soda (if I remember correctly), filling his body and coating his teeth with refined sugars and providing nothing in the way of nutrition, and then, in a burst of heaven-sent inspiration, realizes (a bit too late, it seems), “I could’ve had a V8!”? Really, as […]

The Mediations of the Rich and Famous

February 19, 2012 by

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Pretend, for a moment, that you are a celebrity, with name well-recognized across the world. Got that? Ok, now pretend (and  this may be harder for some of us working stiffs) that your net worth is in the high-hundred millions (is anyone still with me?). Finally (and  this is an easy one, sadly, for all too many […]

Divorcing and Mediating, 101

February 17, 2012 by

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Did you ever get the feeling you might have missed something? (In point of fact, I had that feeling all through organic chemistry, and, since I never really could figure out what I missed–but knew for certain I hadn’t gotten ‘it’–I wisely took a pass on medical school. There’s a moral in that story somewhere–let’s […]

How In the WORLD Could This Work?: The Possibilities of Mediation (and How You Might Have Achieved Mental Illness Without Looking)

February 17, 2012 by

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Julie came from a wealthy family–grew up with that proverbial silver spoon practically shoved down her throat. Were her parents thrilled when she met Jim, whose highest vocational training had occurred at McDonald’s and who had never owned or rented his own apartment–and then shared the news that the two would be married within a […]

Let’s Get Wonky: The Research on Mediation? Yup–It Really Works

February 16, 2012 by

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There’s nothing I find more satisfying than believing in something–and then knowing that the research backs me up. When it happens the other way it’s a total bummer. But I happen to be in luck on the topic of mediation, for not only do I think it’s a better way to go through your divorce than an […]

Mediation: Good For Me, Good For You, and Good For the Kids

February 15, 2012 by

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So let’s say you’re in a “what’s in it for me?” stance when the option of mediation is broached. It’s reasonable–you’ve been through a terrible time in your marriage, and you don’t want to get taken for a ride. You’re really stuck: That jerk from the previous post told you for all those years he couldn’t take […]

Low-Conflict vs. High-Conflict Divorce: Why Mediate?

February 14, 2012 by

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You’d always wanted to go with your ex-husband to Hawaii–you asked year after year, but the answer was always the same. “Sorry, hon, there’s just not enough money for a trip like that. You know business is rough. Maybe next year.” But next year and next year and many more next years came–and the money […]

“He’s MY Daddy:” Campaigning For Attention in the Blended Family: The Step-Siblings

February 11, 2012 by

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To start your proactive work on preventing rivalry for a parent’s attention between siblings or between children and a new spouse, I recommend that you as the parent and step-parent consciously partition your home time into four parts: time with the blended family all together, time with your spouse alone, time with your own children […]

“He’s MY Daddy:” Campaigning For Attention in the Blended Family

February 10, 2012 by

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Layla was a shy, reserved, nine-year-old “daddy’s girl” who had done poorly since her parents had divorced and she had lost the full-time emotional support of and connection to her father. Lisa was my patient, whom  I had seen through a divorce from an emotionally abusive man and several years of dating, and she now knew […]

“Not Necessarily Sacred”: Making Rules For the Blended Family

February 8, 2012 by

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Franklin D. Roosevelt said, in that wonderful bass voice of his: “Rules are not necessarily sacred, principles are.” Let’s see where that takes us. In my post “‘A Room Of Her Own:’ The Saga of the Blended Family Continues,” I suggested that another major topic, after space, that needs addressing when households combine is how […]

“A Room Of Her Own:” Or How To Try To Create That Impression in the Blended Family

February 6, 2012 by

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One of the biggest fights (shall I say wars?) in blending families and bringing his kids and hers under one roof breaks out when negotiating who owns what space. This is a common cause of tension, and it makes a lasting impression on the child who feels left out or misplaced in his step-parent’s home. […]

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