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If the Wife Takes an Antidepressant, is the Husband Protected From Suicide?

July 20, 2012 by

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About one in every 10 Americans takes an antidepressant these days. It’s a hip thing to do. A Center for Disease Control and Prevention Data Brief, “Antidepressant Use in Persons Aged 12 and Over: United States, 2005–2008,” shares some interesting statistics about how usage has grown, and who’s leading the charge. For example, Antidepressants were the […]

Managing Marriage’s End With a Mobile: Apps During Divorce

June 27, 2012 by

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“I don’t think there is a lawyer in town that you could hire where at the end of a divorce you will be saying to yourself what a great time you had.” ~ Lawyer  Michael Helfand No one going through a divorce recommends it as a process. It can be long and drawn-out, bitter, and cost […]

I don’t anymore: Apps to help with the details of divorce – Reposted by JP & Tracy

June 11, 2012 by

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Originally posted on Recently Separated...What is next?:
“Just the facts, ma’am.”  aren’t what estranged spouses are faced with during divorces. Sometimes the other spouse even has the nerve to take something their soon-to-be ex said or did and totally twist the meaning or quote it out of context. If you are in the midst…

The Damage of a Long Commute–Putting Your Life in Danger?

May 11, 2012 by

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I have a pretty good commute, all things considered. I have to move myself from my upstairs, down one–possibly two, depending on where I am at the moment–flights, propel myself around a corner, open a door, and deposit myself on my chair.It’s got a lot going for it–particularly in the winter when I don’t have […]

Warning Signs Your Date Might Be a Commitment Phobe

April 3, 2012 by

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The truth will out, as it always does. Eventually you will know that your partner is commitment phobic. Perhaps you’ll be like Sally, only to discover after umpteen years of false promises that your man won’t be walking you down the aisle. Or, like Wendy, you may learn that the reason your partner won’t marry you, after […]

Living With–Or, Commonly, Without–A Commitment Phobe–Part II

April 2, 2012 by

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Let us just take a brief moment to thank Brad Pitt for his innovative contribution to the Commitment Phobe cause. Says Pitt: “Angie and I will consider tying the knot when everyone else in the country who wants to be married is legally able.” At once seemingly sensitive to single-sex couples deprived of the right to marry, demonstrating […]

Living With–Or, Commonly, Without–A Commitment Phobe–Part I

April 1, 2012 by

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Rule #1 for a Commitment Phobe: There is always, always a way out. ************************************************************************** Wendy worried, early in the relationship, because she wasn’t Jewish. A lovely woman originally from Oregon, Wendy had spent time in therapy working on relationship issues, and learning how to pick better than she had done in her 20s, when it […]

“I Should’ve Known!”: Warning Signs That Your Partner Is Ungiving, Difficult, or Just Plain Awful

March 30, 2012 by

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Do you remember that commercial where the man is drinking a soda (if I remember correctly), filling his body and coating his teeth with refined sugars and providing nothing in the way of nutrition, and then, in a burst of heaven-sent inspiration, realizes (a bit too late, it seems), “I could’ve had a V8!”? Really, as […]

Fantasy vs. Reality in Long-Term Relationships

February 20, 2012 by

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Well, I’ve talked myself out for the moment on the topic of mediation, but thought it might help us to take about 10 giant-”Mother-May-I” steps backwards–to the time when you looked at your to-be-spouse and saw only potential, positivity–and here’s the scary one–perfection. Have you ever found yourself believing your partner to be perfect, in […]

Divorcing and Mediating, 101

February 17, 2012 by

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Did you ever get the feeling you might have missed something? (In point of fact, I had that feeling all through organic chemistry, and, since I never really could figure out what I missed–but knew for certain I hadn’t gotten ‘it’–I wisely took a pass on medical school. There’s a moral in that story somewhere–let’s […]

How In the WORLD Could This Work?: The Possibilities of Mediation (and How You Might Have Achieved Mental Illness Without Looking)

February 17, 2012 by

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Julie came from a wealthy family–grew up with that proverbial silver spoon practically shoved down her throat. Were her parents thrilled when she met Jim, whose highest vocational training had occurred at McDonald’s and who had never owned or rented his own apartment–and then shared the news that the two would be married within a […]

Let’s Get Wonky: The Research on Mediation? Yup–It Really Works

February 16, 2012 by

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There’s nothing I find more satisfying than believing in something–and then knowing that the research backs me up. When it happens the other way it’s a total bummer. But I happen to be in luck on the topic of mediation, for not only do I think it’s a better way to go through your divorce than an […]

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