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Who Owns the Overweight Problem: National Childhood Obesity Awareness Month

September 17, 2013 by

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Everybody worries about a chubby child.  Thin parents and overweight parents, especially those who suffered from fat-kid syndrome themselves.  Even Michelle Obama weighs in on this topic. Yet nobody knows what to do about it, except make September a National Child Obesity Awareness Month. Thanks a lot. One thing surely won’t work: a parent trying […]

My Kingdom For A. . . Marshmallow?: The Astounding Aftermath

May 8, 2012 by

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  Even four-year-olds and marshmallows, cute a combination as they are, get old after a while. So that, it seemed, was that, as sociologist Walter Mischel, lead researcher on the Stanford Marshmallow Study, got publication after publication out of his marshmallow-eating kids run, and he knew enough to be pretty pleased with himself. If you’ll remember from last post, […]

My Kingdom For A. . . Marshmallow?: The Initial Study

May 7, 2012 by

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If I had to pick my ‘top 3 favorite’ social science experiments, it’d really be no contest. [Now, if you're in awe of my mastery of the field of social science, you've forgotten an important point that I perhaps haven't repeated in nearly 2 weeks: My son is Professor Eli Finkel, social psychology professor at […]

Social Maladjustment: All Around Us–and A Risk Factor For Mental Illness

May 5, 2012 by

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My friend Evelyn has potential to be a terminally tedious grandparent. She talks about her grandkids as if we–meaning the world–are merely fortunate that these children have chosen to grace us with their presence. I try to act appropriately grateful.  I have heard about merit scholarships, acceptances to magnet schools, stellar performances on the recorder […]

Children Who Miss Social Cues–Is It Even Worse Than We Thought?

May 4, 2012 by

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Penny is in eighth grade, but quite childish. At school she uses a kleenex box to prop up the books on her desk, and it’s become something of an obsession. If someone–innocently–takes a piece of tissue, well, poor Penny crumbles. She has to leave the room to recover her equanimity and wipe her eyes, and […]

Complicated Bereavement: Mourning Someone You Never Really Knew

April 15, 2012 by

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Well, I never really knew you ’til you said goodbye~Vince Gill If you want to know something about bereavement that slides from ‘normal’ to ‘complicated’ in a moment of revelation, due to unimaginable circumstances, you need look no further than to the mourning experiences of Julie Metz and Reeve Lindbergh. As you can see in my […]

Warning Signs Your Date Might Be a Commitment Phobe

April 3, 2012 by

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The truth will out, as it always does. Eventually you will know that your partner is commitment phobic. Perhaps you’ll be like Sally, only to discover after umpteen years of false promises that your man won’t be walking you down the aisle. Or, like Wendy, you may learn that the reason your partner won’t marry you, after […]

Living With–Or, Commonly, Without–A Commitment Phobe–Part II

April 2, 2012 by

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Let us just take a brief moment to thank Brad Pitt for his innovative contribution to the Commitment Phobe cause. Says Pitt: “Angie and I will consider tying the knot when everyone else in the country who wants to be married is legally able.” At once seemingly sensitive to single-sex couples deprived of the right to marry, demonstrating […]

Living With–Or, Commonly, Without–A Commitment Phobe–Part I

April 1, 2012 by

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Rule #1 for a Commitment Phobe: There is always, always a way out. ************************************************************************** Wendy worried, early in the relationship, because she wasn’t Jewish. A lovely woman originally from Oregon, Wendy had spent time in therapy working on relationship issues, and learning how to pick better than she had done in her 20s, when it […]

“I Should’ve Known!”: Warning Signs That Your Partner Is Ungiving, Difficult, or Just Plain Awful

March 30, 2012 by

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Do you remember that commercial where the man is drinking a soda (if I remember correctly), filling his body and coating his teeth with refined sugars and providing nothing in the way of nutrition, and then, in a burst of heaven-sent inspiration, realizes (a bit too late, it seems), “I could’ve had a V8!”? Really, as […]

When College is A Means To No End: Financial Responsibility For a Murky Future

March 20, 2012 by

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I fear that if I tell one more “in my day” story, readers will start to wonder if I’m in fact an ancient artifact, unearthed by some enterprising archeologist, dusted off, propped up in some Herman Miller chair, and taught to type (unlike any of today’s youth, who are expected to use computers without even a passing […]

“Stupid Young-Adult Children Tricks”–Never Again!

March 18, 2012 by

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So I hear congratulations are in order. Your young-adult child has managed to pull a maneuver at once so suave, so foolhardy, so dangerous, so. . . .stupid, that he is in the running for winning our Stupid Young-Adult Child Tricks Contest. You, like all parents whose children have entered this competition unbeknownst to them, […]

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