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“He’s MY Daddy:” Campaigning For Attention in the Blended Family: New Spouse vs. Children

February 12, 2012 by

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To finish off this series on the blended family, let’s address what happens when the ones campaigning for attention of a certain parent are a child–and the new spouse. Look, let’s face it. Your child has very little cause to be invested in your new marriage. Either he’d like things to go back the way […]

“He’s MY Daddy:” Campaigning For Attention in the Blended Family: The Step-Siblings

February 11, 2012 by

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To start your proactive work on preventing rivalry for a parent’s attention between siblings or between children and a new spouse, I recommend that you as the parent and step-parent consciously partition your home time into four parts: time with the blended family all together, time with your spouse alone, time with your own children […]

“He’s MY Daddy:” Campaigning For Attention in the Blended Family

February 10, 2012 by

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Layla was a shy, reserved, nine-year-old “daddy’s girl” who had done poorly since her parents had divorced and she had lost the full-time emotional support of and connection to her father. Lisa was my patient, whom  I had seen through a divorce from an emotionally abusive man and several years of dating, and she now knew […]

“Not Necessarily Sacred”: Making Rules For the Blended Family

February 8, 2012 by

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Franklin D. Roosevelt said, in that wonderful bass voice of his: “Rules are not necessarily sacred, principles are.” Let’s see where that takes us. In my post “‘A Room Of Her Own:’ The Saga of the Blended Family Continues,” I suggested that another major topic, after space, that needs addressing when households combine is how […]

“A Room Of Her Own:” Or How To Try To Create That Impression in the Blended Family, Part II

February 7, 2012 by

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Not being an interior designer, nor in possession of the perfect algorithm for creating peace in public spaces among warring step-sibs, I can just suggest a few ideas as you work together to share space among your newly-created family. But I do know that everyone needs their space. I’m reminded of the story of Ronda […]

“A Room Of Her Own:” Or How To Try To Create That Impression in the Blended Family

February 6, 2012 by

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One of the biggest fights (shall I say wars?) in blending families and bringing his kids and hers under one roof breaks out when negotiating who owns what space. This is a common cause of tension, and it makes a lasting impression on the child who feels left out or misplaced in his step-parent’s home. […]

“A Room Of Her Own:” The Saga of the Blended Family Continues

February 5, 2012 by

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According to Virginia Woolf, for a woman to succeed in her ambition to write fiction, she “must have money and a room of her own.” Granted your little one may not be attempting to compose the Great American [or in this case, I suppose, British] novel, and her allowance may suffice for now–but if you […]

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