Browsing Archives of Author »Candida Abrahamson«

Pain Awareness Month– Estelle and Narcotics Anonymous

September 8, 2014

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Twenty years ago a woman we’ll call Estelle* came to my office for coaching. Estelle was 84 and had been living with chronic pain from two failed back surgeries she’d had years earlier.  She’d been on opioid pain medication since before the first operation. As with my other pain clients, I was struck by the […]

It’s My Party and I’ll Cry If I Want To–or How We Die

July 14, 2014

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Kelly had been a real touchy-feely all her life, so her choice about how she wanted to go surprised me–but, as I reminded her distraught daughters, it was her choice that mattered. It’s become trendy nowadays to make our last days into something of a memorial smorgasborg. We’re encouraged to write poems to our grandkids, […]

Understanding Fear: What Are Phobias and How Common Are They?

June 16, 2014

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Did you ever notice that when it rains it pours? Well around here it’s been raining infographics like cats and dogs. For real–it takes the two of us who run this blog to fend them off at times. It’s not that the ones we don’t choose to run (and, hard as it may be for […]

National Cancer Survivors Day–the Good, the Bad, and the Neutral

June 1, 2014

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There are only three possible outcomes after a major life event: things get worse, things get better, or things stay the same.  Once you’ve had cancer, it’s not too likely that your life will ever be the same.  OK, maybe with a tiny skin cancer.  But I mean the big, scary CANCER, where your existence […]

May Is Borderline Personality Awareness Month

May 12, 2014

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The 4-year-old child spills the cereal on the floor when trying to put some in his own bowl.  The mother’s response: “I told you not to take cereal yourself! No one listens to me. I’m a piece of garbage!” Storming, she jams the bowl, the cereal box, and everything else on the table, and then […]

Words are Fattening; Watch What You Say to Yourself

January 8, 2014

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I was downdog-ing along, minding my business, when I heard a man’s voice break through the gym’s hubbub. “..and the cherry sauce over the chicken was rich and dark–must have had some  brandy in it–so wonderful!” His personal trainer (female voice), “uh hnn.” “The stake was marinated in something special, wine plus fancy herbs–smelled as […]

Does Your Holiday Family Event Make You Itch?

December 5, 2013

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Well, you made it through Thanksgivukkah.  But don’t relax yet; the big season of joy is coming up fast. Being with your extended family can make you squirm, either due to their direct questions or simply as a results of the difference between your life situation and that of the larger group. If something important […]

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